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YAY .. found it ..
Needed to see the Gong Character in a main lead role after the disaster that was ABOUT LOVE ..

OH WOW THANK YOU SO MUCH :-D

I'll begin scrolling NOW .. LOL

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I cant get off this thread!!
I feel SO compelled to point out the TERRIBLE writing that started after Ep 17

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Yes yes opposites do attract .. but IMO succeeds only when a few traits are that way .. a match of FUNDAMENTALS is essential for the stable long term relationship that stays strong ..

I CANNOT imagine that Bei would EVER be comfortable

~ with a woman who has such a 'misguided belief' in the 'righteousness' of her "TESTING" actions .. I mean she isn't a teen or a young adult .. She is a MATURE ADULT with enough exposure to literature, reading and thinking to NOT know that IT IS WRONG!! What she is doing is IMMORAL .. to imagine that it is some kind of 'social service' for women is full on delulu!!

In fact his first BLURTING out of what he thought of such a woman was HIS TRUE thoughts on such behaviour and mindset.

Any SANE human would be SHOCKED that an ADULT MATURE working woman didn't pause to consider what was SHE DOING!!!
It was ALMOST a game to her .. Guan pins her down to it also .. and she even TAKES on another 'assignment' WHILE she is still with him, AFTER telling him that it was ALL behind her ..
SHE basically betrayed him by breaking her promise ..
Which DELUDED human makes the excuse that because someone is on her death bed they have agreed to do a favour and ACT to make their partner swerve and 'fall'.
If the DRAMA wrote that as part of portraying Xi's character flaw and misjudgement, then it should logically leads to Bei breaking it off .. YESSS that would be a plausible ending to that thread. Each could have emerged 'wiser' .. Xi growing up even if heartbroken at the loss, and Bei realizing that he was blinded by her coming at HIM FULL FORCE during a time when he had JUST been rebuffed for good .. He was in REBOUND MODE .. he would have learnt that it was a REBOUND relationship for him. That would have made sense.

~ next point, Bei cannot be OK with a woman who doesn't up front own up to the 'shady stuff she was up to' right at get go .. and expects that a "clean, straight-laced, homey guy" would be OK with this deception .. OF COURSE she KNOWS what she did was WRONG and is therefore petrified being found out.
Some people say he was not talking about his ex ..
YEAH SO???
It takes time to bring those things up, he doesn't have GUILT about a failed relationship. For him it's still too raw, and he had JUST had that encounter which sends him off to the bar (it was that emotionally traumatic for him) .. A serious relationship that moves towards marriage will always ultimately get to talking about previous entanglements that ended badly .. Bei WAS NOT written as smeone who isnt WISE enough to know that .. During dating phase .. BEFORE marriage talks .. They had JUST begun seeing each other.

BUT MOST IMP DISTINCTION between the 2 concealments : for Bei it was a serious and real relationship that FAILED; in NO way does it compare to the STUFF she was up to .. BREAKING up couples!! THAT was IMMORAL!! Spoke of a weak character, lack of wisdom and a moral compass.
HOW are they EVEN on the same level ..

~ Third point, SHE BROKE UP the relationship of his childhood best friend!!!
A bestie who he discovers is still in love with her, THAT she is STILL seeing him behind his back .. REALLY!! That's an honest bestie relationship?? S
he ASKED Gong to CONCEAL that .. and was Bei written as a character who would be OK with it??
What is he Bodhisattva??
An upright straight thinking guy who likes it clean WOULD IN NO way 'forget or forgive' such blatant concealment .. LIKE he would JUSTtake her words for it???

IMPLAUSIBLE Character Writing .. LAZY script!!

FAILED destroyed REALTIONSHIPS would have been the ONLY plausible REAL LIFE way this could have ended .. FORCING a CARTOON ENDING with ALL behaving like Buddhas with NO attachment anxieties and was just a terrible JOKE on the viewer AFTER setting up such a REAL scenario until Ep 17

OH YESSS .. I would so much like to know what you think.
It's also a Drama RIPE for lots of discussions ..
I spent a lot of time thinking during and after the end of show ..

I cant find it there.
Maybe they removed it.
:'(

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I read one of your comments : you had wanted more 'bonding" time for the Lead Couple in Ep 26?

They look at REAL life themes of LOVE- Marriage-loyalty-faithfulness-insecurities that are at the foundation of how these play out.

Have a look ..

I found these organic and NOT Bent to Fit a HE .. but a realistic reasonable ending that leaves ALL the characters STRONGER

where to watch

where to watch

Have you watched:
~ Strangers Again?
~ V.I.P.

~ A Tale of Rose?
~ What If

Dramas that are brave and willing to go places MOST relationship - marriage Dramas do not

Have you watched:
~ Strangers Again?
~ V.I.P.

~ A Tale of Rose?
~ What If

Dramas that are brave and willing to go places MOST romantic relationship - marriage Dramas do not

Hi
Have you watched:
~ Strangers Again?
~ V.I.P.

~ A Tale of Rose?
~ What If

Dramas that are brave and willing to go places MOST relationship - marriage Dramas do not

~ the drama doesn't try to make you "pick a side" but instead lets you, the viewer, pick by your moral standards.

I really like this line of yours.

I wish the Drama hadn't LOST it's bearing so badly and end up forcing the plot ad characters out of shape and plausibility after carefully setting them up and filling them out ~ a lovely set of vignettes TURNED into unbelievable cartoons ..

It made me wonder .. when did the writers decide it had to swerve to 'rom-com' silly comedic mode??!! That required a forced set of HEs for couples

very well put

Was it a satisfying ending for you?

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I can see that POV ..

It's the script that failed to be convincing, with WHY she held back for SO long from asking her dad about that girl - OK let's say it was mainly triggered by the photograph she saw presumably during the timeline that she was seeing Bei .. shouldn't getting to know about ZHEN pushed away .. like sirens going off in her head .. YIKES this is a deeply entangled guy with a serious past that he's refusing to talk about.

How about that not making her cautious.

YEAH YEAH .. GONG CHEATED .. but he's not a playboy (at least he wasn't portrayed as one) .. she walked into the life of a highly imaginative and creative man who has been in a long term relationship with a woman who he does not 'match in mind' ..
He "slips" when this 'femme fatale' PLAYS right into his life the role that she instinctively knows will topple him ..
BUT here's the thing .. he fesses up .. is honest .. and you can see that he's MORE in love with the REAL Xiao Xi and he is fun playful teasing flirty .. which FULLY matches with Xi character ..

Do you think a woman who isn't instinctively able to 'flirt and play, be coy, witty, seductive, well read, free spirited' can pull off the roles she takes on to test the various men.
So she is a misfit with Bei who is straight as a flag pole (LOL) .. She is her MOST playful REAL self without effort with Gong.
A BEST FRIEND and SOULMATE IS THE prime criteria for a deep meaningful long term relationship that will SURVIVE crises and when the 2 year dopamine flush has receded ..

It's a bit of SOLID DELULU, to choose to marry someone for stability and loyalty who wont cheat .. and keep an opposite gender (sexy handsome attractive witty intelligent HIGH EQ one at that) person as BESTIE .. to satsfy your soulmate cravings ..

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I can see THE FUTURE in that : GONG and she end up sleeping together once the marriage settles down and homey straight laced guy with nary a play or funny bone in him begins to look "BORING"

YUP the Gong and MFL getting togther would have made more sense for the way the drama was set up .. it was proceeding organically until 17 or so and then came the clippers and pruners and gave it a forced shape which had nothing to do with the original tree

Agree .. the 4 way friendships were shown nicely