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You summed it up perfectly and as a woman who does not view herself as the FL or anyone in the story while consuming fiction but prefers to see two individuals who sacrifice and protect each other the same way, it gets exhausting watching these unbalanced relationships. Of course there are always romances where both people are equally devoted and I'd say here's to us getting more but the way this year turned out it seems we're heading in the opposite direction.

One of the things I love most about this drama is they said we were going to portray a feminist complex lead and that not only meant in terms of her career and life but also in terms of how her relationship with the ML felt like one of equals, she said I'm an adult woman and I'm going to work hard in my career but also be as dedicated to this man as he is to me and we usually only get the first half of that.

Exactly, why are female leads like her so rare nowadays? I don't even care who chases who first but it sure would nice to at least see both parties making the same effort towards each other once they get together.

I've always thought kdramas had a nice balance in their relationships but this year it felt like that wasn't the case at all for a lot of shows and cdramas are even worse.

I love this woman and I need her to get everything she wants by the end while the cheaters get their karma.

This year, the vast majority of romance dramas imo felt very uneven because instead of two equally in love committed individuals making the same effort to support and care for each other we got a lot of MLs going above and beyond with FLs who rarely showed the same devotion, so it's such a breath of fresh air so far to see such a proactive female lead.

I'm confused as to why they wouldn't actually show us the LITERAL leads happy ending, a lot of cdramas do this, is it a censorship thing? Where certain storylines have to end very vaguely to be able to air?

I'm really liking this show and I know we have a third of it to go but what is it with dramas lately and couples where the male lead is the one making all of the effort, what happened to equal relationships where two individuals are just as in love with each other and are both showing it with actions and words?

That would not surprise me at all, yeah I don't get it, a writer/director telling love story should at least attempt to craft a balanced relationship of two equals trying their best to support each other. Instead a lot of dramas feel like a 13 year old girl's fantasies of romance and prince charming.

Yeah, there are some wonderful female characters but there seems to be a lot of attempts at "strong" female characters without trying to just write first and foremost well written complex characters and it translates into feeling like someone is trying very hard to convince me of something that is just not present in the storytelling. with having characters constantly comment on it. And since most cdramas are romances, this also manifests into unequal relationships where the MLs seem to the ones doing all the emotional and physical labor and Idk why but this year it felt particularly prominent.

I'm just trying to imagine if the roles were reversed and how people would react to the ML treating the FL like that. This drama had a lot of the same issues i struggled with regarding a lot of shows this year, a lot of lip service "she's smart she's strong" without anything to actually back it up in the storytelling and as an extension of that relationships where you felt like one half was doing most of the work, emotional labor and concessions.

No because I haven't watched a drama while it airs in so long but I was so excited for this I started it and it was incredible and then it felt like someone threw a cold bucket of water on me. I really hope they change it but that quote at the start about loving each other until you hate each other makes me think they might not...

I really really hope they find some other conflict because this has the potential to be amazing and I know people are gonna be so mad, a japanese drama from the 90's can get away with something like that, a kdrama now giving us cheating between the main leads, it's not gonna fly, I've been watching kdramas for years and I've never seen it happen in a show marketed as a romance between the main leads.

Well, I watched the first episode and loved it but I'm gonna wait until it ends to see if it follows the same storyline, because I can handle a lot of things in my romances, cheating is not one of them. Thank you for heads up.

Wait, I didn't know about this, so the female lead in the original cheats on the ML with her best friend?

They look so cute and so mutually loving and soft. I hope 90% of the screentime is spent on them instead of secondary CPs no one cares about.

You're not wrong, I don't know how accurate it was but the number was 16 on this website for a long time. We're getting a lot of 12 ep shows nowadays so maybe the production cut it down.

I'm glad this was saved by amazon prime and is finally coming out, gives me hope that at least some of the 80 plus dramas in the vault might actually see the light of day.

Yeah, I hope we get at least a couple of episodes where she's just as in love with him as he is with her.

He does nothing for me but if people want to thirst after a villain because he's hot, let them? He's not real and it's harmless, some of y'all really need to start exercising some "idk about you but existing in the real world gives me and my loved ones immunity from the actions of fictional villains. hope you manage to get your family out of star wars" energy.