I’ve seen so many people say they enjoy reading the comments here, and I agree—they’ve generally been insightful and more importantly respectful.
But it’s funny how one small critique of Lanxiang can bring out so many people ready to defend her. It’s fascinating how completely she’s won viewers over. Has any other FL inspired this kind of devotion? Minglan, maybe?
How were you guys able to tolerate watching the female lead? She's perfect to a point that's uncomfortable to…
This is also my problem with many recent C-drama female leads. I grew up watching C-dramas, and back then the typical FL was often naive, bubbly, clumsy and poor. But ever since women’s empowerment became a thing, it feels like every FL has to be super smart and capable, to the point where she outsmarts everyone.
I’ve actually enjoyed watching Jing Qi more because he’s flawed and immature, but has a good heart. There’s room for him to grow. With Lanxiang, I don’t know…
How were you guys able to tolerate watching the female lead? She's perfect to a point that's uncomfortable to…
She’s almost too perfect, yet she’s also a walking contradiction. She gives our ML the cold shoulder, but whenever he needs her, she goes the extra mile for him. I think that’s where her flaw lies: she resents him, but she’s too kind to treat him the way Xingtang would.
This drama kinda shows how important is good family upbringing & have a good man as a father figure. Love…
I like that this story focuses only on FL’s struggles in life and the main prob is men causing the misery to women’s lives. Not evil mother in law or jealous concubines.
I usually do not comment at all. Though enjoy reading the related comments here. But episode 36 was very poignant…
I don’t know whether this comes from an ancient Chinese belief, but my mum always says that when someone makes your life difficult—a spouse, perhaps, or a friend who keeps taking advantage of you—it may be because you owe them a debt from a previous life.
In a way, that’s how I see Jing Qi and Lanxiang. Fate seems to keep drawing their lives together, as though each has something to repay the other. Jing Qi went to extraordinary lengths to obtain the marriage decree, despite everyone’s opposition. Perhaps he was always meant to become Lanxiang’s family after she lost hers. And Lanxiang, unwilling as she is to be his wife, keeps saving him, almost without realising it. She has been praying for the chance to repay the person who gathered her family’s remains, unaware that she has already been repaying him all along.
As viewers, we can see that thread of fate between them and the way their debts seem to balance each other. But Jing Qi and Lanxiang each know only half the story.
I have a feeling there won’t be one big scene where they sit down and explain everything. When they finally see the missing half of the story, perhaps they won’t need many words. They’ll simply be ready to open up to each other and choose their marriage wholeheartedly.
The more I think about Lanxiang, the more I feel her complexity lies in the gap between what she says and what she does.
She says she resents Jing Qi for taking away her freedom. Yet after going all out to help his sister escape an abusive marriage, she stands up for him when he is about to be flogged. She has a perfectly logical reason, of course. But after doing so much for the Lin family already, she could have kept her distance.
When Jing Qi’s life is in danger, she warns him. When he doesn’t return, she goes looking for him alone, risking her own life. She says she’s repaying him for helping Ji’er, but does she really owe him that much? Every time she helps him, directly or indirectly, she gives him another reason to hold on to her. If she truly wants to keep a wall, wouldn’t it be wiser stay at home and become a widow?
Maybe the weight she carries in her heart prevents Lanxiang from recognising what she actually wants. Perhaps part of her enjoys being Lin furen. She can live more openly as the noblewoman she really is, and she gets to stay close to the loyal servants she has grown to love. Perhaps, as much as she hates to admit it, she even likes being Jing Qi’s wife. Their history makes that possibility too painful for her to face, but her actions may be revealing feelings she isn’t ready to name.
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Nanke: miss xiaolan , next time if you are feeling better. I will take you out to eat good food.
Jing Qi: is this why da ye did not get the shawl
Wrap around him?
Nanke: sorry sir i will Give to you next time
But it’s funny how one small critique of Lanxiang can bring out so many people ready to defend her. It’s fascinating how completely she’s won viewers over. Has any other FL inspired this kind of devotion? Minglan, maybe?
I’ve actually enjoyed watching Jing Qi more because he’s flawed and immature, but has a good heart. There’s room for him to grow. With Lanxiang, I don’t know…
In a way, that’s how I see Jing Qi and Lanxiang. Fate seems to keep drawing their lives together, as though each has something to repay the other. Jing Qi went to extraordinary lengths to obtain the marriage decree, despite everyone’s opposition. Perhaps he was always meant to become Lanxiang’s family after she lost hers. And Lanxiang, unwilling as she is to be his wife, keeps saving him, almost without realising it. She has been praying for the chance to repay the person who gathered her family’s remains, unaware that she has already been repaying him all along.
As viewers, we can see that thread of fate between them and the way their debts seem to balance each other. But Jing Qi and Lanxiang each know only half the story.
I have a feeling there won’t be one big scene where they sit down and explain everything. When they finally see the missing half of the story, perhaps they won’t need many words. They’ll simply be ready to open up to each other and choose their marriage wholeheartedly.
The more I think about Lanxiang, the more I feel her complexity lies in the gap between what she says and what she does.
She says she resents Jing Qi for taking away her freedom. Yet after going all out to help his sister escape an abusive marriage, she stands up for him when he is about to be flogged. She has a perfectly logical reason, of course. But after doing so much for the Lin family already, she could have kept her distance.
When Jing Qi’s life is in danger, she warns him.
When he doesn’t return, she goes looking for him alone, risking her own life. She says she’s repaying him for helping Ji’er, but does she really owe him that much? Every time she helps him, directly or indirectly, she gives him another reason to hold on to her. If she truly wants to keep a wall, wouldn’t it be wiser stay at home and become a widow?
Maybe the weight she carries in her heart prevents Lanxiang from recognising what she actually wants. Perhaps part of her enjoys being Lin furen. She can live more openly as the noblewoman she really is, and she gets to stay close to the loyal servants she has grown to love. Perhaps, as much as she hates to admit it, she even likes being Jing Qi’s wife. Their history makes that possibility too painful for her to face, but her actions may be revealing feelings she isn’t ready to name.