Kai Xu Min

Yes, a woman can always choose what she wants in her life. If she doesn't want to be a part of a family, it's her choice and definitely she will always be accepted as who she is. We now live in a modern era. Lots of things have already changed.

I do respect both men and women. I think it is you who needs that statement about learning respect. I don't badmouth anyone. I know what women are capable of and so are men. People face different struggles in life. We all handle different situations. I feel for those who are facing difficult situations. I know what women are capable of and can surpass whatever situation may come in her life.
Yes, some men may not be the ideal man we hope for them to be. Some may have misdeeds, irresponsible or unforgiveable. Still, I believe there are still men who can be a good father, a good husband, a good partner, a brother, a son or simply a friend.
Women will always be appreciated. We all love our mothers for giving birth to us in this world. I respect your view in women. As I also give high regard to all women. Like I said, we all face different situations, so I can only speak what I've gone thru. I have my own fare share of struggles. I don't regard them as sacrifice but I think of it as I need to do things because it is for the welfare of my family.

Thinking negatively will never give a positive outcome and you don't give up a lot just to have a happy family. It's all about the mindset. If you always think of your struggles, you'll never be happy. Instead, think of them as challenges to improve yourself and you will feel fulfilled rather than bitter about life.
I do respect what men can do. I believe they have their own contributions in the society and to their respective families. Both men and women have purpose in this life, so please don't belittle what men are also capable of.
And if you're asking when a mutual agreement breaks what will happen? you'll only be left with nothing if you do nothing. You're an adult, you know what to do...you move on and go on with your life. Life doesn't end with one partner. You can always have another mutual agreement with anyone. There are billions or trillions of people around the world. Happiness will always be a choice. If you choose to be happy then you'll be happy.

Surely. I appreciate all the inputs. Just to clarify, being a homey wife is not a sacrifice. If you love what you do, you'll love to do it wholeheartedly.Just like how much you embrace careers, it's the same as prioritizing having your own family. For me taking care of my family, is what I love doing most. And marriage is a mutual agreement, so it means you'll share and agree your ups and downs. So definitely, it's not one sided. Both parties needs to do their own thing to make things work. Its just a matter of compromise.
oh yes, I agree with you to disagree. 😊

Yes, I believe so. Like I said, not everyone has the same views in life. If the majority here thinks SYC was intimidated on JX being career driven that's your call. I'm one of the minority I guess who prefers what SYC prefers in a woman. Being career driven and independent is a good thing, but I still prefer simply to be married to the person I love, take care of him and my future family. If I can do work life balance that will be awesome, still being a homey wife is not as bad as you think as not being career driven. I value family quality time a lot rather than proving your self worth with an excellent top notch earning career. But, if you can do both, you surely lucky enough to have the best of both worlds. Sometimes, we prefer simple things in life and need not be extravagant.

So true, and seems so nice as well.

Same thoughts. Totally agree on this specially about Yi Chen.

Well, if that's how you view SYC's character so be it. Like I said, I simply admire men who devotes their time for you even with their own busy lives as well. And for a man who wants you to be with his life for a lifetime is some other woman's dream. We have all different preferences in life, some would want to achieve.great in their career and some just simply wanted be loved. It just depends on ones priority in life. Han Ting of course, is a green flag but with his Grandfather's requirements for a grand daughter in law is a bit red flag for me. I prefer living a simply happy life with the the man I love even without luxuries and richness in life and yes, we all don't want too much complications.

That's your own POV, I respect that. But, I believe he has supported her even after the break up He even offered financial support thru JX's friend but knowing JX she would decline that offer because that's how independent she was. Again, if this was reversed I believe JX would do the same and initiate the breakup herself since the relationship is going nowhere. I'm not saying SYC is great but I just prefer his ideal relationship to simply have time for each other. Spend happy times together. Grow together as a person with their respective careers.

Yes he did not say anything. He acted everything is ok because he wanted JX to be in his life. He's in love with her. He's willing to sacrifice just to be with her until he realized that they have different goals in life. That it's impossible for them to be together because they're needs doesn't compliment each other. I think it was a selfless act to let go of someone you love for the sake of her happiness. Because you know that she'll not be happy with the type of relationship he wanted. Obviously, he didn't played the victim and was clearly showned that JX was too busy and no time for him even on the day of their 4th anniversary. Even the timing simply just don't cooperate with them. Things didn't work out only for him but for both of them. JX knew that but her career goals is her top priority and love has to be in the backseat.for awhile.

Yes that's true. Probably she liked him even way before. It such that SYC only see JX and never liked anyone.It's a one sided love at first and got the opportunity to pursue later on when SYC is already free. That's reality. It can happen to anyone.

That makes sense about JX may want to prove her self worth to match up with SYC's status as a doctor.
I guess, timing is really important in a relationship. If you missed the opportunity, it's just not meant to be.
My take on marriage really depends on how both parties truly want to be together. Be married or just simply a relationship takes two to tango. It's always a give and take relationship. And yes, having a family is a serious decision. Both must be willing to sacrifice at some point. It's always a compromise. If you like things to both work for you, you can always plan things that will suit both needs. That is, if you truly want to be together for a lifetime.
In this case, JX seem really not ready yet to settle down and I just felt sad for SYC. I just admire men who include their partner in their future plans. He really wanted JX to be his lifetime partner but just not ready for it yet. And probably, SYC would really want to spend more time with JX thinking if they get married they would have now more time together. I don't think it's his needs is more important but rather he was deprived for the time that should be spent being together, that he kept on waiting for that to happen which may seem impossible to happen since starting a business is just a continuous process of a busy life. He understand that so he has to let go.
It's just sad to feel that you need to let go of someone you love because you think of your partner's happiness and be able to reach their goal.

Yes, that's partly true. SYC has waited for 4 yrs for JX to give him time but there's a limit for waiting I guess. And yes, I agree, they're not really suited for each other.

Oh, that will be something to look forward to. Got me curious since I haven't read the novel. Thanks for the headsup.

I feel you on that with regards to getting the opportunity to grab the friend's ex. 😁 It may seem to be awkward but yes, they are really meant for each other. At least both JX and SYC will be happy with their respective partners. 😊

I also think SYC accepted JX for who she was. In their 4 yr relationship, as showned in the drama, he has done everything for her and fully supported her with her career. I don't think SYC is intimidated by JX being career driven, but, he was more of hoping JX would be able to balance her time with career and for her relationship, however, the relationship has been sacrificed a lot due to lack of time and more focused on career. To the point that even his wedding proposal has to wait for several years more because of the business.
Anyways, this just have to happen since JX have to end up with Han Ting, and I think their partner preference are really meant for each other since both of them are career driven. I just prefer a work life balance. That if you truly care for someone, you would find time for him/her no matter what.

It probably is one sided, since most of the issues showned was JX always doesn't have the time for their relationship as she was so focused on her career. Not a bad thing definitely. But, I guess their timing is always off, like SYC seem ready to settle down but still have to wait for JX's quite never ending strive for her career. Truly enough, am glad SYC intiated the breakup since both of them are struggling to sustain the relationship. Probably JX's feeling wasn't just showned so I tend to be sad for SYC. But, I know he'll get the right partner for him later on which is Qiu Zi.

Oh yes, Ji Xing's character is truly admirable, as you've said being strong, independent, educated and career driven. I guess, each one of us has its own preference. I just prefer Yi Chen's ideal woman who would have time for him at least. He fully supports JX with her career and her life, but I understand how Yi Chen's feelings that he also needs someone to take care of him. Sadly, JX's too busy to be able to give that.
I'm not blaming Ji Xing, I just felt sad for Yi Cheng. And I know her character needs to match the ideal woman of Han Ting.

Truly, I admire how career driven persons can focus on their work after going thru something in their personal lives and go through healing at the same time. Sadly, JX's feelings wasn't showned. It just felt too hard when SYC initiated the breakup and explained how he truly felt on their 4 yr relationship. And I also admire his courage to do such, that even if it's hard to let go, he needs to do so because he cares for JX too much.
Yeah, I've seen Gao Han too mostly with Xu kai's drama as well. And yes, I think he portrays mostly same roles.

I think so too. But Yi Xiao is just too sweet to let go. Unless, he does something halfway to lead Li Li choose the other side.