KevinToronto

Respectfully, that is a load of bo****ks. Sometimes pushy and irritating? Genuinely cares for Wei Zhi? Respects her? A bit annoying? What are you smoking and can you tell me where you bought it?

She said in front of Yi Ming and both mothers that she will not marry Yi Ming and that she likes someone else. Yet he continues to pursue her. When he met her at the airport, she ducked under his arms and she told him the flowers, etc., were too much. He tells the friends of Chung that he will wait for her forever.

These are not the the actions and words of someone who respects and loves (yes, loves) someone. It is obsession and stalking.

Absolutely, there seems to be a group of accounts who have rated the series low. How someone can rate an episode before it has aired? There are 43 "people" who have rated tomorrow's episode at an average of 7.3 and 41 have rated EP 23 (the last one) at 7.4.

Wei Zhi definitely knows what her parents (and Yi Ming's?) expect of her. At the same golf event, her mother said she was going to start the engagement process. I would have thought/hoped that both her mother and Yi Ming would have had some level of respect when she point blank said that she would not marry Yi Ming.

What is perversely interesting is that Wei Zhi's mother is clearly the dominant partner in the marriage and is a successful business person, yet she is dictating who her daughter's career and who she marries.

I understand and agree with the frustration with the lack of boundary setting. The only explanations (and these are not excuses) are
-- Yi Ming is a longstanding friend;
-- He is the brother of her best friend (although is debatable right now);
-- The two families have known each other for a long time (is there a business connection?)

None of the above excuses Wei Zhi, but they could explain why she is reluctant to be too aggressive in her rejection.

Thanks for that information. I will try to find where it is said that he was away for 8 years. Regardless, he is way beyond delusional and well into the obsessive stalker realm.

I am fully onboard with that assessment. I wonder what his parents do because I strongly suspect that this is being planned as a business marriage by the parents.

A quick follow-up to my rant below regarding how I am really enjoying the way the director/producer is showing the Wei Zhi's different reactions to Chong and Yi Ming.

She gets annoyed or frustrated whenever Chong does something she does not like. Sometimes she will sharply say something. Other times, does not say anything but gives the "evil eye" stare. To me, it is clear that these actions are being used to show the growing emotional connection between the two.

However, with Yi Ming, she readily answers and responds, and does not chastise him. And does not get angry with him. For me, these are signs that she views this a purely friendship. She has known him long enough to overlook the faults. It is also suggests that she has no knowledge of how he feels towards her and his intent.

Having just watched Ep 12, I feel I have to re-iterate how obnoxious Yi Ming's stalking attitude towards Wei Zhi is. Apologies for the length of it, but, as far as I am concerned, there are no redeeming qualities in this character.
-- Aside from the fact that he tags along to the new location, he gives food to Wei Zhi in front of everyone else and proceeds to tell them and her what she can and cannot eat.
-- He has known her since she was 10, if not earlier.
-- Nothing I have heard indicates that he has ever told her how he feels.
-- He went to Germany to study medicine. From the patient case conversation, he seems to be an oncolgist (cancer specialist). A quick check shows that medical school in Germany lasts 6 years and 3 months, and then a residency is required. I could not find the length for Germany but in Canada to become an oncologist takes 5 years of residency (3 years internal medicine and 2 years medical oncology).
-- So he was in Germany for over 11 years, but does not appear to have been in touch with Wei Zhi, and did not even tell her he was returning. [A quick maths check shows that he left for Germany when she was no older than 14. -- However, he is very comfortable telling the friends of Chong that he wants to protect her forever and will wait just as long for her to decide to be with him.

All of the above does not even take into account
-- The scene at the airport
-- Turning up at her house uninvited
-- Obsequiously holding the umbrella to shield her mother from the sun during the golf
-- Listening in on her phone conversations
-- Trying to read her text messages

Sorry, but I cannot feel bad for him. As far as I know, he has not once told her how he feels.

I noted that change as well, which I viewed as a clear indication of her feelings, although the part of her literally trying follow in his footsteps was a pretty clear as well.

She is 25-years-old. While playing golf, her mother says that Wei Zhi should get a serious career and stop the childish drawing of comics. Then, she says that she is finalising Wei Zhi's engagement to Yi Ming.

You could be right. I just hope that the show does not expend too much time getting to the resolution.

Fully agree, as a straight Canadian/British male.

100% totally agree. I was being a little polite when I said borderline. Everything you wrote about what he has done moves him into the stalker category.

Sorry, @VINCENZO, Yi Ming's actions have gone way beyond pestering. He is full on intruding/stalking/obnoxious. All I can say is that, in Canada, if a man keeps chasing after a woman says NO, then he will be visited by the police.

I would have to disagree slightly; he is a borderline stalker, not a puppy. For example, the scene when he met Wei Zhi at the airport. Despite having been in Germany for many years, he turns up with a "display" that gets the onlookers saying "marry him". And from then on, the constant turning up right next to her, including saying he will teach her to ski even though she wants to learn to snowboard.

While I agree that the usual SML is not like this, I can think of at least two programmes where there was a secondary character who was very similar: Fireworks of my Heart (the step-brother) and Love Scenery (the actor).

Good luck with the midterms.

I agree, and I hope that the Yan and Nan Feng relationship is settled sooner rather than later, with not a lot of conflict.

My recommendation is to start watching it; it is an entertaining story. As noted below, it seems that some people will always give Yu Shu Xin bad ratings regardless of what she does. I will acknowledge that her voice might not be the greatest, but I have heard far worse in real life.

And, the Wei Zhi character is not the hopeless, one-dimensional persona that some might believe. She has a "wicked" side as shown in her private account. And, in Episode 11, we have Chong saying "I didn't realise you're scary when you lose your temper, even if you are usually playful.

I am not entirely certain that it was scenes between Yan and Nan Feng that were cut out. I feel that what is missing are scenes of the dynamics of her family. Her parents seem to be successful and it would not surprise me if Yi Ming was always the favoured child (because he is male), and received most of their love and attention. If that is the case, then it is understandable that she is emotionally stunted (see my comment above). And, why she does not stand up to Yi Ming's obsessive stalking of Wei Zhi.

From what I have seen, acting like nothing happened is very much in keeping with Nan Feng's character. She seems to be an emotionally stunted person, who does things for instant gratification and then moves on to the next thing to excite her.