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But didn't you yourself said after he got banned that you don't know what happened that he started to insult people? Insulting people is getting personal. Even when he was "arguing" with me he often moved from dissing the show to dissing ans commenting on me as a watcher.

I mean... He also had questionable takes on age of consent and tried to convince me i was for sure attracted to teenagers (already during my adolthood life) and if i say i never did, I'm lying so i guess there might have been a bigger issue than just being rude.

He was in fact quite rude and aggressive in his replies.
It's not the first time he got banned.

People don't get banned for criticizing shows. I know what I'm saying, I write an essay long review shitting on TharnType at the peak of its popularity 🤣 and nothing happened, just a few angry comments here and there.

Pro tip - someone disliking this show (or any show) is not a personal attack on anyone.
Most people don't writes their criticisms just to piss fans off, they just want to share their opinions. The same way fans can claim the show is a masterpiece, people who dislike it can call it trash.

And the few people who might legit be trolls - more reasons to just scroll past and leave them alone., interacting is not worth wasting your time.

not gonna lie, in my heart I wanted to give it like 9, but that editing 🙃
Also the conclusion they gave with Tae Hyung 🙃

I wrote the review morning before the episode dropped, so when JH started to talk about this taking steps at the end I was so surprised hahahaha
The coincidence of me writing that paragraph in the review and then similar scene playing in the drama itself was hella funny hahaha

She was not blaming him for anything lol She pointed out how his behavior was selfish because not once he considered the other person - he only thought about himself, his perspective and his understanding of the situation. It's not the same as blaming someone. Especially since there was nothing to be blamed for.

It's not, because that bulling can exist in this extend exactly because of the hyperfocus on social relations. That's why a senior can bully a junor, a boss can bully a worker - because person younger or lower in the social ladder basically has less social rights. Hence the same thing you will say to a person your age is viewed as fine, but similar line said to a senior would be disrespectful. Or the way your senior speaks to you is fine, you if you reply in a similar fashion- it;'s rude.

You are free to stand by your opinion ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

no, it only proves she is aware of how much of a bitch she is, but does not negate how by the society standards it might be viewed. He apologized coz "by the book" it was rude, without knowing she did not view it as such.

I have seen many more exaggerated cases than this, when someone was "rude" to their seniors. People having to apologize for not looking down (which was seen as rude) after they were hit by their "senior" being one of the examples.

Whenever he was naive is a bit of a 50/50 chance. Depends where they will end and if Jae Won will be able to improve his mental health and deal with issues with Ji Hyun in mind and in more healthy manner. Coz if he does - nothing naive in Ji Hyun, but rather shows he trusted the right person. But if Jae Won does nit improve and gets better, then yes.

Like... we basically know if the chance we took was naive thinking or not ONLY after we get the results. And it's then the case if we think the risk is worth it in the first place. For Ji Hyun is was. I think the fact he does not have any traumatic past or psychological issues is one of the reasons he can handle the situation well - because lets say he is emotionally healthy. While if he also had some issues, he would be incapable of dealing with it (most likely).

She acted like a complete bitch. BUT when you watch a show from Korea gotta look at it from their cultural context or you will see a lot of things that make no sense. Again, being sassy to piss off your senior is viewed as rude in that culture - even if objectively you were not wrong in the way you acted. In Poland (where I am from) this would be no issue since we don't hypervalue seniority. But since Korea does, it was considered rude. But even she figured out his behavior was a reaction to her acting like a bitch so she herself said he was not rude, just "sassy".

Ae Ri si extremely open and has no issue speaking up. She has a different personality than Ji Hyun. For me, he should NOT apologize, but taking into consideration his personality, it made sense he apologized.

i'm not defending him. Explanation is not excuse. But explanation can give you an information if it's worth getting yourself into a relationship with a person or not. Jae Won did wrong, he had to apologize. Now he needs to act better. Then it's on Ji Hyun to decide if he can forgive and give him second chance. Which he did. I would not. I would not think I can handle a relationship with someone like Jae Won based on my own personality and past life experiences - that relationship would hurt both me and my partner. But I am not Ji Hyun. and I can understand how Ji Hyun would forgive, especially if he believes Jae Won can get better and they clarified the situation.

Ji Hyun has more than one feeling and emotion. He himself prioritized his feelings towards Jae Won, over how hurt he was when he was ignore. BOTH are Ji Hyun's feelings. His love for Jae Won was basically stronger than the hurt he felt (especially since he kind of vaguely understood Jae Won was not acting like a dick just coz he wanted to see Ji Hyun suffer, him being able to observe that made it easier to forgive later).

Now... it all depends on how Jae Won will act from no one - after they got together and explained everything. If he still tries to make decisions himself, run away when something bad happens, instead of verbalizing his fears and letting Ji Hyun be part of whatever is going on and how to deal with it - yes, Ji Hyun should leave. But that's just talking in if and maybes.

For Ji Hyun - I get why he apologized. I mean, I don't know for sure, but I can at least think of a reason, since I would also apologize in this situation. I honestly don't give a fuck if someone who wronged me would apologize - if they don't, they are out of my life completely and that's it. BUT I would apologized even towards someone who did something wrong to me, if I also did something wrong, even if it tiny in comparison. Why? Because I do not want to be on the same level of shitty social behavior as them. I also believe it's good to admit and apologize for what you did wrong no matter the circumstances and the person you apologize towards. And since in Korea the senior-junior relations are what they are, Ji Hyun's sassy talking back in that social context would be considered rude.

Tae Hyun is trash and that was the only thing that left bad taste in my mouth. I completely understand the reasoning Jae Won gave on why they became friends, but it does not sit right with me he was so casual about them still being friends now, especially since Tae Hyun literally jokes about his boyfriend almost dying...

Did he act like a dick towards Ji Hyun? Yes.
Were there many Red Flags? Yes, since there were many unhealthy behaviors from Jae Won towards Ji Hyun.

BUT, what you completely ignore is the intent behind these actions, which MATTERS, because it gives you the information if said patters of behavior can be fixed or not. In this case, while from the outside he might have acted like a fuck boy, he is not a fuck boy - there is a difference. His indifference towards Ji Hyun was his unhealthy and distorted reasoning caused by his mental health issues, that could be corrected (and they were corrected, hence they got back together), while if you ARE this type of a person, there is no correcting, because you intentionally hurt someone just to hurt them and use them.

It's a bit like you would not say that someone who kills a person in a car accident because they had heart attack while driving is the same as someone who deliberately drives someone over. On the victim side it's the same - in both cases they died, but on the perpetrator, it's different.

Oh.. sorry then, as long as we all agree we are all not objective 🤣🤣 I'm fine haha

As for the mental health - it's such an overused "trope" , but it's probably one of the first times i feel like it was done in a good way, so i just cannot not compliment the show about it 😅

reviews on website like mdl are never objective. they are basically a written opinions.
99.99999% of users are just casual viewers that don't know all the technicalities of acting/directing/writing/producing, so it's impossible to be objective.

That's said, nothing wrong with being subjective. It still gives an indication how the drama makes someone feel as they watch and if the journey was enjoyable - which for many are more important aspects that the technicalities that they don't know much about anyway.

It's about setting boundaries. For example, therapist or psychologist should not really give advices, unless the patient/customer asks for it. The relationship is slowly form and the boundaries are established as they go. Each person is different so each relationship with therapist would be also different. It all depends on what the patient wants/needs/expect/accepts. In Jae Won's case it seems like it was something he needed and accepted.

Yo, there is one thing this drama ACED!
Making them actually act in the way appropriate for their age and make the age gap truly obvious.

Jeng legit has an amnesia about what it felt like to be an insecure and stressed out young adult at the beginning of your work life so he is so fucking unnecessarily strict lack empathy.

And then Pat is so stressed and hurt about such a fucking normal things at work, other people who worked longer would not care about 🤣

"It’s more of the characters walking next to each other rather than characters walking together. Sometimes one person stops for a moment. Sometimes one person picks up the pace leaving the other behind. There are individual detours before they can both reach the destination."

Not me writing this in my review today's morning and then them using walking analogy in the episode itself 🤣

Okay this whole scene with Bing Chan ans the bro was hella fucking frustrating.
All it took was to tell her: bitch you lying. and she went: yeah I'm lying.
The fact it took them so fucking long to question her on her story is just 🤡

I might hate Bing Chang, but Chen Du Ling is doing such a good job portraying this nasty egocentric selfish bitch 🤣

TTJ is such an emo dramatic queen. So many easier ways to die, bitch decided to burn himself alive 🤣