Firefly88

It's not that kind of drama. Not gonna happen unfortunately

It's normal to break up with someone if your feelings change, or to not marry them if you're not sure. It's the right choice to make for everyone involved.

It's also normal to break up with someone if they are not meeting your emotional needs, disrespecting you and have no time for you.

I started this drama with low expectations, but truly this drama is the worst, most childish, tacky xianxia I've ever watched...

If you still think it's rash, I think you didn't really understand the why. Maybe try rewatching it with a more open mind and look at it from her POV

I don't see her that way at all. I think her behaviour is very reasonable and understandable. She hasn't played with anyone's feelings... I really don't understand how you have reached these conclusions.

I don't know how things will play out with Jungo, but I hope they will get back together with more maturity and mutual respect. I think right now she is not sure what she wants, but she's finally willing to talk to Jungo, so now at least they can talk things through before they decide their next step.

It's not shameless at all. She broke up with her fiancee. It would be shameless if she hadn't broken up with him first.

I really don't understand why you hate her so much.... I think she's a very good person. She's just struggling with feelings and relationships like the rest of us.

Spot on.

Hey, don't forget, she was working too. They never said that he was financially supporting her? Also... he is not hardworking for her, he is hardworking for himself, his goals and because he can never say no. He was more considerate to strangers and colleagues than his own girlfriend by the end. Any promises or commitments he made to her were broken so easily without even informing her, but if some random colleague has a problem, he was there to help.

Yes, she was young and immature, but so was he... He didn't keep his promises that would have protected their relationship. They spent no time together. Remember how he left her alone so much that even his dad had to pick up after him? She was in the police station alone, in the hospital with crutches and he wasn't picking up... He kept ignoring her calls. He didn't priorise their relationship at all.

There is nothing wrong with being hardworking, but this was too much. I think this is also an issue in Japan that they were highlighting that the men are working all the time and marriages become loveless and empty because there is no quality time together.

She broke up with him because she had had enough and was becoming depressed. I think it's totally fair enough. But Jungo should have tried to get her back. He never even apologised for his bad behaviour. He just had excuses and blame. That was also immature.

But... maybe now a few years later, there is more maturity from both Jun Oh and Beni, and a chance to try again? I hope so

It's not sh!t or disrespectful at all, she was open, honest but in a gentle tone. You can't end a serious relationship without a very clear explanation why. Of course, any breakup will cause hurt, but I think she did it very well.

Btw I'm referring to how he kept pursuing her when she came back from Japan with a broken heart. I am conflicted about Min Jun as a character... He's not a bad guy, but I dunno, the whole pretending to be friends despite having feelings for her is problematic for me.

I agree. It's also a bit hard to follow the flow of the story since the time keeps jumping, but that's kind of the style of this whole production this intertwining of the past and present.

There is nothing wrong with how she broke up with him. It's much better she broke up with him now rather than take her mother's advice of marrying someone she didn't love and spend decades in a loveless marriage...
She was honest, direct and applogetic
and she held his hand while she said these things. She never said anything about going behind his back. Your heart dropping means she would have an emotional reaction like she is having now. It is not s***** at all, which by the way is a very offensive, misogynist word. Your reaction to this break up is very extreme so I can only assume it has triggered something personal in you. It has done for me as well, but not this in particular.

I just rewatched the break up scene and wrote down the dialogue for reference:

MJ: Don't cry. I didn't think my proposal would move you this much.
CH: Sorry. Min Jun, I don't know what's wrong with me. I don't want to be like this... I'm sorry, Min Jun, but I'm not so sure... I was sure I got over it.
MJ: Is that why you went to the book signing event today? I was there too. Because I was anxious....
If I had told you how I felt before you went to Japan, would things be different?
CH: Min Jun, even if we were dating before I met him or even if we were married with three children, my heart would drop the moment I saw him, just like it did now. When he leaves, and you leave me, I'll be all by myself again... But I can't lie to you because I'm afraid of being lonely.... because I genuinely like you.
MJ: Because you genuinely like me? I didn't know that word could sound so cruel.
CH: I'm sorry, Min Jun, I have to go.

I'll reply in 2 comments so it doesn't get too long. First, Hong and Jungo...

I think a mature viewer will see here that it's not about blame. Jungo and Hong's breakup was an accumulation of problems due to lack of communication, differences in perspective, and the inexperience of youth. Jungo even admits this. He is the type of person who keeps things to himself. That was one of the problems. He wasn't open or flexible. There were also cultural differences where Jungo was constantly criticising Hong for breaking invisible rules. Definitely an issue of living in such a courteous but controlled culture like Japan, which is unfamiliar to young Hong because she's more easygoing, straightforward and takes people at their word. They definitely illustrated the Japanese-Korean culture clash in this relationship. Things she did innocently were perceived as rude by Jungo and he criticised her heavily, which she couldn't understand because she was young and immature, and he was too rigid not understanding the cultural differences in perspective.

I think his chapter is done for good now. I'm just rewatching the breakup scene. I wrote down the dialogue.

MJ: Don't cry. I didn't think my proposal would move you this much.

CH: Sorry. Min Jun, I don't know what's wrong with me. I don't want to be like this... I'm sorry, Min Jun, but I'm not so sure... I was sure I got over it.

MJ: Is that why you went to the book signing event today? I was there too. Because I was anxious....
If I had told you how I felt before you went to Japan, would things be different?

CH: Min Jun, even if we were dating before I met him or even if we were married with three children, my heart would drop the moment I saw him, just like it did now. When he leaves, and you leave me, I'll be all by myself again... But I can't lie to you because I'm afraid of being lonely.... because I genuinely like you.

MJ: Because you genuinely like me? I didn't know that word could sound so cruel.

CH: I'm sorry, Min Jun, I have to go.

Maybe he asked her again because deep down he knew she wasn't invested. That's why he went to argue with Jungo, because he was feeling insecure when he realised just how much Jungo's presence had affected her and their relationship.

I see it differently. I get mild "nice guy" vibes from him. His love is unrequited but he continues to push himself into her life through acts of kindness until she gives in. Acts of kindness, respect, niceness, friendship is not a guarantee that someone will love you and want to marry you. It's a "I put the nice coins in why didn't the love/marriage fall out". Love and attraction isn't based purely on how nice someone is. She nevertheless always saw him as a close friend but he wanted more... Also, he didn't let her do anything, he had no right to allow or disallow her from living her life.

Had he approached her when she wasn't broken hearted, I don't think she would have started dating him.

First love hits differently. It's been 15 years since my first love ended, but if he turned up tomorrow in front of my doorstep, I would get back with him without any hesitation. Some bonds are just unbreakable even though you're apart for a long time. I find this story very relatable personally.

I don't know how they're going to wrap this story up in just one episode. It needs another 4 at least.

I think he has already rejected her for so many years, it's unlikely to change now. Maybe Kanna prefers him now because he is emotionally unavailable...

She was rejecting him. I heard it as "I like you but..." Honestly it was better that she was honest with him than marry a man she didn't love like her mother.

Also why is he proposing when they're already engaged and trying on wedding clothes? I don't get that part.

Unhealthy lessons learned from trauma leading to a breakdown in communication. Classic really.